The right invitation does more than announce a date. It sets the tone, honours tradition and welcomes your guests with care. In this guide, we share elegant, time-honoured etiquette for what to include, when to send, and how to communicate with clarity and grace.
The Purpose of a Wedding Invitation
An invitation is both practical and symbolic. It provides essential information such as the date, time and location, while also offering a first impression of the celebration to come.
What to Include on the Invitation
Key Details
- The couple’s names
- The request to attend, whether formal or informal
- Date and time of the ceremony
- Venue name and full address
- Reception details, if held at a different location
- Dress code, if applicable
- RSVP instructions or reference to a separate RSVP card or website
Formal or Informal: Choosing Your Wording
The language of your invitation should reflect the tone of your day. Whether you are hosting a traditional ceremony or something more relaxed, the wording you choose helps shape guest expectations.
Formal Example
Together with their families
Charlotte Rose Sinclair and Edward James Fletcher
request the honour of your presence at their marriage
Informal Example
Please join us to celebrate the wedding of
Charlotte and Edward
Tip: If parents are hosting, their names may appear at the top.
When to Send Your Invitations
Standard Timings
- Save the Dates: six to twelve months before
- Wedding Invitations: eight to twelve weeks before
- Destination Weddings: ideally four months in advance
Should You Send Save the Dates?: Read here
Common Invitation Etiquette Questions
Should I include a dress code?
Yes, particularly if the venue or style calls for something specific. This can be placed in the bottom corner or on a separate card.
Can I mention gifts or registries?
Not on the invitation itself. Include those details on your wedding website or an accompanying details card.
Should I name children on the invitation?
If children are invited, list them by name on the envelope to avoid any misunderstanding.
Making the Details Feel Intentional
Your choice of paper, font, ink and finish all contribute to the experience. Whether you choose letterpress, foil or engraving, every detail sends a message about the day you are inviting them to share.
A Final Thought
Etiquette is not about formality for its own sake. It is a way to welcome, inform and honour your guests. With care and consideration, your invitations become more than a formality. They become a reflection of the day to come.
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